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Have You Ever Been Jealous Of Another?

>> Friday, January 13, 2012

     Have you ever been jealous of someone else's weight loss?  I ask this question because of something that happened yesterday.  A co-worker of mine when to a conference and saw a girl that she used to know and also happened to go to High School with me.  My co-worker came back from the conference and was shocked because this girl had lost 80 pounds,  since the last time she saw her 5 years ago.  The loss was so dramatic that she didn't recognize her.  I had known of her weight loss and I have also seen her through the years, so the weight loss was not dramatic to me.  Now the reason I am jealous is because here I am 60 pounds lighter than four years ago and I am sure no one is taking about me saying, "Oh have you seen Haneefa, she looks like a different person!?  Wow. Oh. Ahh"  As I reread this I know that I am being a hater and actually hearing about this girls loss, has re-enforced the weight that I want to lose. 


So the question is: Have you ever been jealous of someone's weight loss?

15 comments:

Enyonam January 13, 2012 at 11:16 AM  

Definitely! I had a friend who kept her exercise and diet patterns secret till I noticed that she had lost weight. I kept asking myself why I wasn't losing my weight. lol! I finally realised my problem; lack of dedication. Now I know better ;-).

And Haneefa, I am SO SURE that people are talking about your weight loss.

Illiterate January 13, 2012 at 12:02 PM  

Absolutely I have been jealous of others. Also, I bet people ARE commenting on your loss. It's not in our nature to talk about people to their faces :P

barbknits January 13, 2012 at 12:19 PM  

Yes! :) Mainly because they have the willpower to keep it off. :) I have some internet friends that have each lost over 100 pounds and have kept it off for a few years and I am insanely jealous (and envious!) that they were able to stick to it. I want to be like them when I grow up.

Like the folks before me, I'm sure they're talking about you... :) But most people don't want to say "wow, you look great" or "wow, you've lost a ton of weight" without our permission because they don't want to offend us.

barbknits January 13, 2012 at 12:19 PM  

Yes! :) Mainly because they have the willpower to keep it off. :) I have some internet friends that have each lost over 100 pounds and have kept it off for a few years and I am insanely jealous (and envious!) that they were able to stick to it. I want to be like them when I grow up.

Like the folks before me, I'm sure they're talking about you... :) But most people don't want to say "wow, you look great" or "wow, you've lost a ton of weight" without our permission because they don't want to offend us.

Ro January 13, 2012 at 1:06 PM  

I've never been jealous of anyone else’s weight loss honestly.
Probably because I don’t even care I be all focused and shit :-)
and I know that their journey is theirs and mine is mine.
You NEVER really know what people are doing to get fit/lose weight. You can only go off what they tell or show you. But you know what YOU are doing and that’s all that matters!
But I've been green eyed about other shit now...don’t get me wrong..lol

but I am SURE people are talking about you. I find that people closest to you have more of an ISSUE with giving your congrats or praise than complete strangers. TRUST me I KNOW people are talking abt how far you have come. and if no one says it to you...I’m saying it to you.

You look FAB dahling and I mean it!

MS. Bad Mama Jama January 13, 2012 at 1:44 PM  

I've never been jealous of others. Frustrated maybe at times with my own journey. But, like Ro I would remind myself that their journey is their journey and mine is mine.

Please know people are talking or thinking about your changes! If not directly to you - then to themselves or to others...

myloverswife.com January 13, 2012 at 1:48 PM  

Yes, I believe that I've been jealous of other people's weight loss. But I as I write this I'm wondering if the feeling I really experienced was shame; shame that I had let myself gain so much weight in the first place and shame that I did lose as fast as others. My current feeling is shame that I did not keep the weight that I did lose off. Either way, both feelings are natural. But they are both destructive to your spirit. Shake it off! Losing 60 pounds is amazing and you look awesome.

Lily Fluffbottom January 13, 2012 at 1:56 PM  

Also, the people you see everyday don't always consciously notice the weight loss. They see you shrink, but you're still you. People you haven't seen in a while on the other hand, its like being smacked in the face with a whole new person.

At least that's what they tell us.

Erin January 13, 2012 at 3:25 PM  

I have had moments of jealously but I take that emotion and turn into positive energy to feel inspired and motivated to stay focused and do my best. It's totally normal to react the way you did, but like everyone else has said I'm SURE people are also talking about you...you just don't hear it.

Kristin January 13, 2012 at 5:56 PM  

I definitely get this! It was only the other day that I was telling myself off for being all jealous of someone at work.
And I agree with Erin, I'm sure people are talking about your weightloss, just not directly to you :)

Miesha Roshawn January 14, 2012 at 8:03 PM  

I'm going to have to say no. Even when I was 275 and started losing, I knew in my heart I would/could get to where I desired to be. I beat myself up a lot BUT I never threw shade on another persons progress. It's a natural feeling I'm sure, especially when you're trying to get there!

I have been on the receiving end of the jealousy though! Snide comments about how I look funny now! I don't trip and I keep doing me! You have to keep doing you! Seeing pics, you do look great!

Stormy@Big Butt Theory January 14, 2012 at 8:07 PM  

You are not alone. I know for e it stems from me not doing as much as I now I should, BUt it is a crappy feeling for me.

Trina a.k.a. Me So Hongry... January 14, 2012 at 9:03 PM  

Not necessarily jealous. I sometimes get annoyed when people achieve weight loss dishonestly...don't get me started. Sometimes I may feel a twinge of jealously, but that's the motivation to fuel my fire.

Tim January 15, 2012 at 4:57 AM  

I try and turn any jealousy into positive motivation. I'm only usually jealous when I am actually angry at myself for not trying harder when I know I could have done.

Coach January 16, 2012 at 7:31 AM  

I think too that the jealousy must be turned to positive motivation. If she or he can do it, I can too.

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